Saturday, January 8, 2011
Whoops, I'm nursing too much......or am I?
Charlie and I got into a lively discussion this morning about spoiling our daughter. She hasn't been napping lately, but gets tired and crabby around the time she should be going down for a snooze. Instead of holding onto a frantic, tired baby clawing at my breasts, I nurse her until she falls asleep, which ends up happening about five minutes into nursing. Charlie thinks that this is having an effect on how much my breasts let down during a nursing/pumping session, and we discussed our options on how often to nurse and pick up our ever-changing daughter.
2 days old with a lot to learn about all this :)
Then spoiling came up. Charlie thinks that Lydia has me trained to nurse her at her beck and call, which is pretty much true. Crabby? Let's nurse. Tired? I'll whip them out. First thing in the morning snuggle kisses butterfly you-are-my-darling-daughter-and-i'll-give-you-anything-you-want sweet nothing nursing? Heck yes. The problem is, now it's an expected thing, and she gets fussy when we try to soothe in a different way. I've been fixing all her baby issues in the best (breast, haha) way I can, which has led us to a dilemma: I'm the only one who can readily comfort our daughter. This leaves me tied down, and Charlie feels bad that he can't provide the same support and love for our daughter.
So this morning, a few minutes ago, Lydia got fussy and wanted to nurse, so I nursed her. She fell asleep five minutes in. Charlie and I talked, and he took her to rock and shush her. She woke up and cried, and now I can hear them in the nursery, fussing and shhing away. My boobs are literally tingling from my wanting to nurse, and I know that she's confused as to why she's not using me as a pacifier at the moment.
relaxed much? good grief.
What do we do? Charlie's not around at all during the week; he works from 8-6, and two or three nights a week bartending until midnight or later. I'm not able to pump enough to stock up and have him feed her a bottle every once in a while. Everything I pump goes to my mom, who feeds her 10-12 oz on the nights that I work at New Horizons, and I'm not able to save up much more than that. Should I start training her to eat less frequent, bigger meals and pump in between? Or should I just keep nursing on demand on the prospect that this is the only time in her life that she'll be this little, this perfect? The La Leche League's basic gist says to nurse all the time, whenever she wants, and pump as much as I can to keep the milk coming, but to me that's just not practical. Or fair to Charlie or anyone else that isn't lactating and wants to comfort her, for that matter.
This is a real problem for our family, and I'd love some feedback on how we can get back on track with nursing and napping. I'm getting tired of the simultaneous napping and nursing...her sleeping with my nipple in her mouth is cute and sweet, but man alive, I have stuff to do! :)
On another note, I just checked on them in the nursery, and they're both fast asleep. Aww.
Thoughts? Thank you!
Posted by Katie at 9:34 AM